It’s not very enlightened of me, but I can’t get enough of Kim Kardashian and her failed nuptials these days. Although the ending is predictable, I can’t help but divulge myself in the sordid details of what led up to her quickie marriage and even quicker divorce. I feel sorry for her, am ridiculously jealous of her luxury and bling and am disgusted by her and all she represents all at the same time. But I can’t help but just suck up all the sordid minutiae of it all.
For serious yoga practitioners, staying with something, even when it is confusing, difficult and unpleasant is what commitment and discipline are all about.
For the former Mrs Humphries (although we all know she didn’t take his name) dedication in the face of adversity are things that a dedicated practitioner is used to dealing with. By being focused on the present moment, you learn to breathe through confusion and chaos so you can find you center.
Attachment: Who wouldn’t want to stay in Hollywood and keep on getting paid $50-100k an appearance at a party and 10k for a tweet and give up that for the mediocrity that would come with raising kids in the confines of a Missouri suburb. With a regular practice, maybe she could have learned to detach from all those hedonistic trappings of fame.
Ego-Identification: Being trapped in the identification of your ego-self and being more concerned with how the external world perceives you and not seeing how you perceive yourself at the level of soul can create a sense of disillusionment.
Clarity: We all saw it coming on E! as they were getting ready for their nuptials, they were already having a clear battle of values and priorities. Her first allegiance was and is to her brand and family, which is why she didn’t want to change her name and she didn’t value creating a strong partnership with her now X-BBall player hubby. She didn’t even let him choose his own tuxedo! He almost had to insist on being able to see their Montecito wedding venue before she put down a deposit on it.
Non-greed: Being paid an exorbitant sum to film your nuptials, (not to mention she was gifted almost everything associated with the weddings, her 3 Vera Wang dresses, the cake, the band, the limos, etc) can color your thinking. What would have happened if she had declined to profit from her nuptials and she had just gone done to Mexico and gotten married just the two of them with no fanfare and no spotlights? Maybe she would have been able to have more clarity about the lack of a common vision.
Centered: Rushing into marrying someone, even as the grenades are starting to go off in the planning process can throw anyone off kilter. Taking your time, keeping the event modest can let you be more focused on your lifelong commitment and not which designer gowns to wear.
What about you? Chime in on your thoughts of KK
By, Jasmine Kaloudis